One Thing At a Time

When my husband asks, “Are you trying to bake that cake, again!” I know it is my cue to slow down and concentrate on one thing at a time. It is a gentle reminder that started between us many years ago when our children were small and our life was extremely full of people and activities.

Right before guests would arrive for dinner, regardless of what a wonderful meal I had prepared, I would inevitably decide to add something else, which often made the moments before their arrival stressful.

Trying to do too many things at once cannot only be stressful, but also dangerous.  On my way to one of my appointments this week, I noticed the driver in front of me was talking on the cell phone, taking bites of a hamburger that was placed in her lap and sipping a drink from a cup in the holder of her console–and driving.

It looked like an accident about to happen, and I quickly got out of her way. Unfortunately, this dangerous scene is an example of how we live now.

It seems that, most of the time, we are scrambling around, moving very quickly, doing three or four things at once and only half-listening to the people we come into contact with.  Our minds are cluttered and overly busy.

We are blessed having so many things to make our life easier, like cell phones, and a cursed at the same time. The blessing is that we can do so many things at once and always be in touch with everyone. Of course, that has always been easy for most women, because as mothers, we usually have about 18-25 years of “on-the-job” training multitasking.

From the time the nurse places a child and the extra take-home supplies on a mother's lap on the way out of the hospital, until the day that child leaves home, she learns to cook, talk on the phone, sign school papers, hem a pant leg, and place a band aid gently on a quivering knee, while getting ready for her own job.

The curse is-many of us have a hard time slowing down when they leave. Being able to do everything at once becomes a way of life. I'd estimate that I operate at about half the speed I did when I was a young mother.  However, I've learned that I get as much accomplished, when I concentrate on doing one thing at a time and I enjoy it more too.

When we concentrate on the moment it can also make a difference in how we treat others.  While at the bank one day, I watched as a very friendly teller was helping a customer.  The man's cell phone rang while she was talking to him and he answered it.

Instead of asking the caller to wait, he began to ignore the nice person who was waiting on him.  She finally stopped trying to talk to him. When the transaction was over he simply took his money and walked out without acknowledging her.

Respecting the  dignity and pride of the people in the workforce, who are making a difference in the well-being of our country, is important.  We never know what is going on in people's hearts and lives.

Sharing and appreciating our collective vocations helps each of us get through a working day. It wasn't a big thing, and maybe it didn't bother her as much as it did me as I watched the scene unfold, but it seemed to me that it could have been a more enjoyable moment for both of them if he had concentrated on one thing at a time.


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Deana Landers
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I have had many roles in life
Pastor’s Wife , Mom/Nana , Nurse/Health Educator, Writer , Christian Speaker
I can't remember a time when I wasn't writing stories, either in my head or in my journal.

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Story Comments

  1. Santhakumary -

    "One thing at time" is a good advice. I too have the habbit of doing several things at a time and nothing would come right. By doing one thing only at a time, we can concentrate on what we are doing.Your article helped me to register this fact in my mind.Thank you.

    • Deana Landers -

      Thank you for that encouraging comment. Sometimes I just need to be reminded to stop, slow down and do one thing at a time. I look forward to more of your comments. Deana

  2. So, so, so very true Deana. I can't believe people are so rude sometimes and have no concept of living and appreciating the moment. Kindness and decency shouldn't be an afterthought. Why do we have to rush around like crazy idiots all the time?

    • Deana Landers -

      Michelle, I think it has to do with what the media, television and social media is making us think that we missing something if we are just still or if we are not excelling in something. I try to have moments in my life during the day that I just am. My plants and outdoor life is where my quietest kindest moments are in my life. Thank you, dear girl for your comments. Deana

  3. Harriett Hitchcock -

    Thank you Deana for your thoughtful and sweet stories. This story of concentrating on one thing reminds me of the time long ago when I could answer the phone , hold one child on my hip ,stir the pot on the stove, let the dog in, and watch the other children outside playing outside. I can no longer do that, but try to really concentrate on the task at hand as you said. It makes me smile to remember though. Thanks again. Harriett

    • Deana Landers -

      Harriett, thank you so much for your kind comments. Slowing down has always been a struggle for me. It means a lot to me when the words I write touches someone's heart. My website is still new so I would be very grateful if you share with others. Sincerely, Deana Landers

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