Embarrassing the Kids

When our children were teenagers, one of the things they hated most was when I used coupons to buy groceries or when I would count out change from my purse instead of handing over dollar bills or a credit card.

Little things embarrassed them, like when I cut a When our children were teenagers, one of the things they hated most was when I used coupons to buy groceries or when I would count out change from my purse instead of handing over dollar bills or a credit card. Little things embarrassed them, like when I cut a coupon from the newspaper for a bucket of chicken.  I stopped...coupon from the newspaper for a bucket of chicken.  I stopped at the intercom of the fast-food drive-in sign and ordered the fried chicken, but failed to tell them I had a coupon.

When I drove up to the window, I showed them my discount coupon, but they said they couldn’t take it because I didn’t tell them I had it when I made my order.

I thought about that for a moment and then told them to cancel the order.  My 13-year-old daughter was sitting beside me and immediately became embarrassed.

Her embarrassment turned to horror when I drove back around the drive-thru and ordered the same meal again?this time being sure to tell them I had a 20 % coupon.

It’s funny how children begin to understand their parents’ things when they have a family of their own.

Today, as a wife and young stay-home-mother, my daughter is a mathematician in the grocery store.  She often calls to tell me how much money she saved on her groceries by using coupons. She even finds it amusing when people get aggravated at having to wait while the cashier counts out her coupons.

Recently she was very proud of herself when she went back to the clerk in a department store after she had checked out to show her the sale price the clerk had missed.  She had charged her the regular price.  She made several customers wait for a $13 savings while the clerk voided and rang up the entire purchase again.

Fortunately, her daughter was just 7-months-old and didn’t yet realize how embarrassing that could be.

It wasn’t just saving money that embarrassed my kids.  I loved everything they made for their dad and me and kept them all out so everyone could see.

My youngest son laughed when I framed his drawings and doodles because I believed he was a budding artist. When his friends visited and noticed the homemade motif, I often told them a story about his eclectic artwork.

My red-faced child drug his friends into the privacy of his room before I could get too far. When I visit my son's home, most of the art you see on his walls is what his children have drawn.

As the children grow older, they ask me why I still keep those silly little things around the house.  “Why don’t you buy some new things?” they say. As their children grow older, I'm sure I won't have to explain my nostalgia as often.

It was interesting when our middle son called to ask me to meet him on the computer webcam to show me the pottery bowl he was making. As I listened to every detail of how he molded it and painted it, he held it up to the webcam so that I could see every crevice of his freshly created masterpiece.

He even wanted me to see how he had left his fingerprints around the rim instead of smoothing it out. Leaving his fingerprints made it a unique piece. Indeed, he told me. It would be “one of a kind,” he said. He said he would make another and send it to me.

But since we were playing show and tell on the computer, I told him to wait a minute. I ran downstairs and got the little round pottery bowl filled with nuts and brought it back for him to see. I showed him how carefully the little hands that had made it had left fingerprints all around the rim, so I would never forget how little he once was. I told him not to worry about sending me the bowl right away.  I had the original.

He was fascinated when I showed him his carved initials on the bottom. Life is one big circle. It is interesting how our children learn from us despite themselves. The things that seem so frivolous, even embarrassing to them as young people, eventually gain value and become irreplaceable.


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Deana Landers
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Story Comments

  1. Yes, things definitely change when our kids have kids! It's good to see some lessons are passed on to the next generations!

    • Deana Landers -

      Yes, they do change, Marty, as our kids become adults. It's fun to watch sometimes:) Thank you for reading and sharing my stories.Deana

  2. Love this Deana,Both of my daughters have become mothers in the last year and I cannot wait for things to come around!

    • Deana Landers -

      Oh Libbie, you will have fun! Thank you for reading and sharing my story.Deana

  3. My mom used to use a calculator at the grocery store and it embarrassed me so bad. And yes, when my kids were little and we were on a budget I used one too! Great story. Kim

    • Deana Landers -

      Thank you, Kim, for reading and sharing my stories. Yep, what goes around comes around with our kids:)Deana

  4. Beautiful story, our relationships with grown children are every bit as amazing as always. You made my heart string tighten a little bit, were always Mom xo.

    • Deana Landers -

      Thank you, Leanna. I'm glad you liked the story. Thank you for reading and sharing my stories.Deana

  5. This weeks story is so precious. Life does go full circle I can see it now on my kids too. I had to laugh at cancelling your order and going back around with a voucher, I thought that was priceless.

    • Deana Landers -

      Thank you, Anita, for reading and sharing my stores. Yes, life does come full circle for all of us if we are blessed to see it.Deana

  6. Maria -

    So true’ my kids were pretty good about coupons! I’m the one that was embarrassed when my mother used coupons!

    • Deana Landers -

      Thank you, Maria, for reading and sharing my stories. I hardly ever use coupons now, because I forget to:)Deana

  7. When my husband was young he would get together with his cousin and the two of them would tease his mom about always losing her teeth and gagging on them. My husband now does the same thing. He says it's his mom spirit getting him back.

    • Deana Landers -

      Oh, Doreen, that is so funny. These very same things have happened to us. My father in law use to talk and tell jokes to anyone who would listen(strangers). My husband hated it and now he does the same thing. Thank you so much.Deana

  8. I love this story, and its so true. Especially love the fingerprints on the pottery! Thanks for sharing this feel good treasure.

    • Deana Landers -

      Thank you, Nancy, for reading and commenting on my story. I'm glad it made you feel good:)Deana

  9. This made me smile, thinking of all the times my Mom embarrassed my sister and me when we were growing up. She has a wicked sense of humor and I still cringe a little when I think of all the things she got up to and then I smile even broader because I'm doing the same to my kids too. Hopefully one day when they have their own little ones they'll keep the wackiness going :D

    • Deana Landers -

      Thank you, Michelle. It's these little things that are our treasured memories later. Keep up the great wackiness:)Deana

  10. Connie Estes Ranow -

    So very true I remember when I would go to yard sales and my girls would cry and tell me they wanted to stay in the car and sit back in the back seat and how much they hated it but now my girls go to shop in goodwill and these other stores for clothes at which I hate to go in and refuse to shop in but if I see a yard sale I will stop. Difference unknown other than one is inside and other is outside.

    • Deana Landers -

      That is the way it is, Connie with our kids:) I like outdoor shopping too. Love you

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